Now you no longer need to take caution!
Imagine being able to read what the person over the other side of the table is thinking? Are they telling the truth? Are they being totally honest with you?
How you can become a human lie detector…I have a hunch
Have you ever had the “feeling” that someone is not telling you the truth. Or had a hunch that someone is lying to you.
Well you’re not alone, and the reason that you probably had that feeling is because your subconscious mind was picking up small gestures, movements and signals that the other party was displaying that was giving you that idea.
How to tell what someone is thinking without listening to what they say
Approximately 65% of our communication is non-verbal or based on our body language.
Some research has even shown that our movements and non-verbal communication has up to 5 times as much impact compared to what comes out our mouth.
This is really good news for the intellectually curious man…especially if you know what to look out for.
A bit of history
I’m not sure if you remember telling a lie as a kid. I don’t. Not as much to do with the fact that I never told a lie, because I know I would have, but more to the point that I just don’t remember…but I digress.
When Kids lie they cover their mouth. When kids hear something they don’t like or is not honest they cover their ears.
Same thing applies to adults today…but not to the same extent. Instead:
When Adults lie they will touch their eyes, mouth, ears or face with their hand in a quick movement.
This can involve a number of movements, but the most common to be on the lookout for will be:
- If they put their fingers in their mouth
- If they scratch their neck
- If they pull their collar slightly
- If they Touch or scratch their nose
- If they pull or rub their ear
- If they rub their eye
- Or if they have their hand over their mouth (whilst their chin rests in their palm, similar to the “I’m thinking” pose)
Be careful
It is very important to be careful with this and don’t go accusing someone that they are a liar as soon as they scratch their nose. Because they may have very well just had an itchy nose.
The important thing is to look for a couple signs in a row, or patterns forming when on a particular topic.
To help you be certian
There is another gesture to be on the subtle look out for when trying to determine if someone is telling the truth with you or not and that is:
Notice what their palms are doing
The movement of our palms can tell a lot. If our palms are faced upward it signals openness and honesty.
Where as if our palms are hidden or turned down it signals the opposite.
This can help with coupling with someone’s hand/facial gestures
An Example
Just the other day I was talking to someone. Not a friend (just to clear that up).
He said something and as he did I noticed he scratched his nose. What he said was something that I didn’t think he believed (in other words he wasn’t telling the truth), which made me take notice further.
Now as discussed, this scratch on the nose, couldn’t really mean anything because his nose just may have been itchy.
However, every time that topic was brought up again in the conversation, he made a scratch of the nose, or a scratch of the chin, or played with his ear.
Which lead me to the conclusion that he was lying about it.
Now I didn’t say anything of course. Because that’s not the point of it. But it has given me the power to know slightly the way he thinks, which might come in handy at a point in the future.
Take Action
1. If you believe this is something that could help you re-read over this blog post to make sure you grasp the signs described. Try them yourself in front of the mirror, or something similar, just so you cement the associated body movements in your own mind.
2. Try it out at the beginning, where you not the one that is conversing, for example in a business meeting or another social atmosphere where you can just sit back and concentrate on watching the body language and movements of others.
3. Practice, and eventually use it for when you ask someone questions or are talking to them, and use this knowledge to your advantage.
4. Remember, be careful. This is a very handy tool, but don’t wrongly use it or falsely accuse anyone prematurely.
What do you think? Have you ever known that someone was lying to you? If so, how? What techniques did you use? In what aspects of your life do you think this might help you?
